In this fabulous book by Dale Carnegie I have already learning so many things about how to be successful. The first chapter was all about how complaining and cutting other people down do nothing for yourself but rather hurt you instead. You end up with this awful reputation and no one wants to work with someone who complains all the time and then cuts down the people he works with. It's made me look back on all the times I passively wrote things online about my own friends. I knew they would be able to see it so why did I write it? I obviously thought it would make them bow down and realize that they hurt me and then never do it again but instead it backfired and only made things worse. It's something that I only did the once when I was 15 and now I know to never do it again. Because no matter how angry you are at someone passively making a blog post about them is not going to suddenly make things better. However, this book made me feel a lot better about having done that because I now know that I am not alone in this type of situation. Mark Twain and Abraham Lincoln both wrote angry letters to people who were unkind or just generally pissed them off. It also helps me remember that people who are successful are really remembered for how they treat the people below them. I know that whenever I meet someone I see as an idol I will always remember how they treated me. I met Dave Grohl last March and he was one of the nicest most genuine people ever. He is a rock GOD and he was down to earth and I will never forget that. So I will always have that in the back of my head as I work my way up. No one is any less of a person than I am and never will be.
In the second chapter I feel that it ties in a lot with what I was saying before. Treat people nice but don't fake it. Dave Grohl was incredibly kind to my friends and me but I could tell that he loved meeting his fans and wasn't annoyed with us being there. To me faking something like that is easily detectable and I would have known on the spot if he had been annoyed with us. And believe me he wasn't! Whenever I meet someone else now, especially someone who I want to work for, I know that flattery is very different from being genuinely nice and appreciative.
The last chapter in part 1 I think might have helped me the most. Right now in my life I am trying so hard just to get noticed and I am sending tons of emails with my website and a few pictures but I never hear back from them. Now I see it's all about how I word things and how I need to show these galleries and magazines that they need me because it'll be beneficial to them. I need to convince them that they want me to work for them because everything will be in their advantage.
So far I am loving this book and I can't wait to start applying what I've learned to my life!
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